Suggestibility is so powerful, that based on the story we are telling ourselves, about retirement or anything else, our whole outlook can pivot like a weather vane.
This parable says it:
A grandfather is talking to his grandson about life.
“Two wolves are always fighting inside me,” says the man to the boy.
"One is bad. He is hatred, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego.
"The other is good. He is love, joy, peace, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.
The grandson thinks for a moment and then asks, “Grandfather, which wolf will win?"
Says the grandfather: “The one I feed."